Angelique Gerber’s heart burns with an unstoppable passion for women and children. For her, being a woman is to let the sun shine on others, to let that green monster go and to always keep growing.
When her first born was six months old, she found out that she was pregnant with twins. “It won’t help to lie – it’s rough. It’s hard work.” Still, she can’t imagine her life without Annabella, Olivia and Jacques Junior. As a woman, just the fact that she was able to get pregnant is very special for her. “I know how many women out there yearn to have a child of their own. It’s just the biggest blessing that I could have healthy pregnancies and healthy children. It humbles me.” The fact that she is very strict makes her as a woman very special to her husband too. “And the fact that I keep a tight rein on him,” she laughs. “He says all the women he went out with before me were too soft and he could get away with murder. He loves that I keep him on his toes.”
Since her acting career kicked off in her second year of studying drama when she got cast for a role in 7de Laan, Angelique has only gone from strength to strength. 4 Years ago, her dream of studying at the New York Film Academy also came true and she studied Acting for Film for three months while missing her newly found love terribly! Thank goodness for Facetime! Even though this year is supposed to be a sabbatical, she just got cast for an English drama series on Mzanzi. “It was literally the fastest I’ve ever been cast.” Still, having three kids within 14 months is no joke and she wants to be a hands-on mom. Like many women, she likes to be in control and with all three her kids still quite small she wants to be there for them. This goes to show that there is always room for women to grow and being a mom was one of Angelique’s biggest emotional growth spurts.
According to the young actress, one thing women need to have more of is self-respect. “It is a difficult one. I grew up without my father and I also had to hit my head hard and there were times where I did not have self-respect, because indirectly you don’t love yourself. You need to love yourself first; you must have respect for yourself first before you can reach out and be in a relationship. I feel if you can’t have respect for yourself, you can’t have respect for anyone else. If you don’t love yourself, you can’t truly love someone else. It is a daily battle for me. I have to decide to choose myself first, because if I look after myself, I can look after my children and my husband. I just reached a point where I realised that I am a much better mom if I ensure that I am okay first. Then my kids are also okay, because they pick up when you are irritated or tired or when you just can’t cope anymore. You must make the decision to choose yourself daily and walk the road with God that He shows you who you are in Christ. That is my prayer for my twin girls – that they will always know who they are in Christ, because they are women and women tend to have a lower self-image than men.”
Angelique says it is important for women to keep growing too. “The day we stop growing, we’re in trouble. It hurts to grow. I always say it is the parts that hurt, the sad parts, the lonely parts from which you learn and that make you grow. That’s why I feel I always need God, because it is in those situations that I really need someone who is bigger than the problem and who I believe is in control. That’s my view on life. I will struggle without God. It’s probably not the answer most people are looking for, but unfortunately the only way you’ll grow is when you challenge yourself, when you put yourself in situations where you think you can’t do it.”
Vuurwarm vir Charity is hosting a golf day on 15 August at the Blue Valley Golf Estate in Centurion and Angelique is their guardian angel. The charity is mainly active in the Krugersdorp area, helping out at a small nursery school by providing them with the necessities like groceries, books and more. The ATKV affiliated Vuurwarm vir Charity hosts this annual golf day to raise funds for the next year to assist the school with whatever they might need. To buy your fourball, contact Anzelle on 082 958 7425 or firstname.lastname@example.org. A fourball costs R4000 and includes two golf carts, entry fees, gift packs, a halfway meal, the prize giving, entertainment and dinner.
“For me, being a woman is to let the sun shine on everyone. There is more than enough out there for all of us. We must always guard ourselves against the green monster called Jealousy,” Angelique says.